I think the better question would be, how do we respond when we encounter people who irritate us, tick us off or even piss us off!
We all live in a very busy life and the last thing we want is to get annoyed by certain individuals that really make our whole day gloomy. Here are 3 practices you can use to handle situations like that:
1. Choose to respond instead of react
Many times we as human being, react on situations and how people treat us. Mainly because we focused on how that individual behave, or even what was being said. We must understand that we cannot control how people behave or what comes out from their mouth, but we can always control what we want to do about it. We can choose to respond, or react. We can choose to stay calm, even though we are being annoyed, or we can choose to argue or fight back. You & I have a choice. When we choose to respond instead of reacting, we are practicing maturity.
Everyone has a reason why they do what they do, and there are always stories behind the scenes that we are not aware of. Instead of judging them, we can choose to be compassionate & sympathetic. It’s so easy to label others because of the way they behaved or what was being said. Likewise, we will be labelled by others as well. When we are being labelled by others, we probably feel that who are they to judge simply because they do not know what is going on in our lives. Others are probably the same as well. Often, we judge others without even knowing what’s going on in their lives. If we do not want to be judged all the time, we should start judging less. When we are being less judgemental, we are more at peace with ourselves and others. Life will be very much more interesting.
3. Understand yourself better
Nothing happened by accident. Things happened in our lives FOR us rather TO us. Ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation? Maybe it’s time to do some self-reflection. Why are you being pissed off easily? Is there something in your life that you need to pay attention to? The key to understand others is understanding ourselves, BETTER. If we understand why we are reacting instead of responding, we can handle any given situations. We will never be able to fully understand others’ situations and why are they the way they are now, but we can always understand ourselves better by being more aware of our reactions or responses. We can then, choose to be a better version of ourselves, being more caring, loving, empathetic & sympathetic